Talking to your partner about vaginal dilators: tips for an open conversation

Many people find it difficult to talk about intimate topics – especially when it comes to pain during sex, changes to the vagina or medical treatment.
But what if your partner doesn’t know much about vaginal dilators? How do you explain why you’re using them without the conversation becoming awkward? An open conversation can help to allay any concerns and foster mutual understanding.

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What are vaginal dilators?

Vaginal dilators are medical devices designed for the gentle and gradual stretching of vaginal tissue. They are used according to the instructions for use (IFU), and where appropriate, under professional guidance.

They may be considered in situations such as:

• Persistent discomfort or pain during intercourse
• Vaginal tightness or narrowing
• Scar tissue after childbirth or surgery
• Increased sensitivity to penetration

Dilator therapy typically starts with a smaller size and progresses gradually, allowing the body to adapt step by step.

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Why can talking to your partner be difficult?

Many people initially associate vaginal dilators with illness, pain or sexual problems. This can lead to feelings of insecurity or shame.

Some possible thoughts are:

• "What does my partner think about this?"
• "Do they find me less attractive now?"
• "Does this have anything to do with our sex life?"
• "Do I need to justify myself?"
• "Will my partner be disappointed if we can’t have sex at the moment?"

Such thoughts are understandable. At the same time, unspoken concerns can lead to uncertainty on both sides.

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Tips

An open conversation can provide relief and help you to see the use of vaginal dilators as a way of supporting your own body and personal wellbeing.

These tips might help you:

• Choose a time when you’re both relaxed and at ease
• Explain why using dilators is important to you personally
• The application does not constitute an assessment of the partnership
• Think together about what feels right and talk about boundaries
• Give your partner time to come to terms with the situation

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⚠️ Disclaimer

This article is intended for informational purposes only and does not replace professional medical advice. Vaginal dilators should always be used in accordance with the instructions for use. If pain, irritation, or other symptoms occur, discontinue use and consult a healthcare professional.